How to Talk (To Yourself)
Many people do not take into consideration of how they speak of themselves. Have you ever woke up, looked into the mirror, and just said “I look like complete crap!” or even other times where you said “I can’t do it, I’m not good enough”? You may have not thought deeply about it, but surely you have doubted yourself in some ways—if not, I applaud you. For the most part however, many of us do not take notice of how we talk to ourselves, even if it’s the little things, such as disliking your own eyes, nose, or anything else physically—but allow me to ask you a question, if you were to have a friend that talks to you the way you talk to yourself, how long would you keep that friend of yours?
Let that question sink into your mind for a minute, and answer it with all honesty. How long would you keep that person around?
The way you speak about yourself is a perception of who you are. For instance, if you suffer from anorexia, you will think that you’re overweight, when it is the complete opposite. At this point though, you may fail to realize the truth because it had became your own reality. If you think you’re going to have an awesome day, it’s going to be an awesome day. Likewise, if you think you’re going to have a bad day, it will be a bad day. However, the reality is that the thoughts from your mind may or may not reflect the truth, which is why it’s important to start taking in control of your inner thoughts, and point it in the right direction.
Whether you think about saying something like “I’m bad at this” is not a significant impact on your perception of reality, you’re wrong. It may not take one or two of these thoughts to create your reality right away, but when you think about it for a long period of time, you start to develop a mindset where it is indeed true, when it really isn’t. Your perception is powerful, it makes you believe what you want, almost like living in a fantasy world.
So what if you really don’t have the skills to do something, or think you’re not good enough? Does it matter? Although we cannot control the perception of others, we can always control our own. I never really understood why a person would let an outsider influence their own reality. If others think negative of you, would you keep that person around very long? I sure wouldn’t, but what I would do is keep my own perception in check, and think positive. If I never thought that this blog would be a success as it is today, I would of given up on it a long time ago—but I didn’t. In my reality, I envisioned what my blog had to offered, and I couldn’t live in a better made up reality, which came true to this day on.